Wednesday 25 July 2012

WHO'S TO BLAME?

Hello everyone. I'm sorry for being MIA (Missing in Action) for so long. I'll try to make up for it.
My weekend was one I do not want to have a repeat of. However, all is completely well with me.
My week has been great. Yesterday, I came across a case of child abuse.
I was with some people when someone suggested I watch a certain video on his phone. He said they were talking about it just before I came in. Some of you might have seen it. It's the video of two children-one of them three years old or so. I couldn't quite ascertain their ages. I did not watch it. Even if I was paid, I couldn't watch a video like that. I'd read about it before. It's a pity that some thing like that would be allowed to happen.I was asked who's to blame and I said I blamed the adults around the children.The older child must have been exposed to sex and pornography to be able to carry out the acts they carried out. It is also possible that she was sexually abused.
Another angle to it is the fact some someone watched them do it, made a video of it and put it on the internet. Who does that? Why would any one allow something like that to happen if he had the power to stop it. Did he derive a certain enjoyment from watching such child pornography? These were the questions I asked those with me yesterday. Someone said, maybe the person had seen it happen before and wanted proof. There is no excuse for making a video of two children having sex. It's sheer wickedness.
There was also a case where an 11 or 10 year old confessed that she couldn't stay a  day without having sex! She had been abused by an elderly neighbour who later moved away. However, she had become hooked and would go as far as begging touts to have sex with her. Where were her parents or guardians when all these were happening? Yesterday, when I told them this story, a lady said that if she had not enjoyed it the first time, she wouldn't have gone on to look for it. Let us understand that children are first, highly impressionable. Let us also not forget that children are human too and are capable of experiencing pleasure.Why would she not enjoy it?
Let me tell us a short story about myself. When I was a child, we had a lot of uncles staying with us at sometime or the other. There was this time, I might have been 12 or a bit older. One of my uncles decided that he wanted to watch a pornographic movie in the house. I was there. I saw what was going on in the movie. I knew it was wrong to watch it, but remained.It was the knowledge that it was wrong that made me  watch from behind one of the seats. My uncle saw me but did not chase me.
Yes, I should have left. But, my uncle should not have exposed me to a movie like that. We should be careful what we allow children around us see. There's pornography on tv , everywhere these days. Even on the streets, on posters. Movie sellers display packs of pornographic movies. Children stop and watch and nobody even chases them away.
The truth remains that there's a responsibility on us as adults-parents or not to look out for the children around us. Let's not expose children to vices and evil that can destroy their today and tomorrow.
God bless and keep us and ours,amen.


Friday 20 July 2012

Do people still have their first kiss on their wedding day?

Remember the saying  'You may now kiss your bride' ? I doubt that Pastors still bother with that when they are officiating in a wedding. Why bother if as in some cases, there is proof(pregnancy) before you, that the couple has kissed before? That's for churches where they wed a pregnant woman of-course. My point is people no longer stay true to the 'first kiss on the wedding day' practice. Even Christians. Why is this?
It's because sex before marriage is now the norm, and those who have chosen to abstain don't see anything wrong with kissing before marriage.
I'm going to share the opinion of some Christians on this.
Mr A says......... I've seen both sides taken within the Christian church. A wonderful church that I attended and was a member of in Manila believed very strongly that your first kiss should happen at the altar. Now, that wouldn't be me. I don't think I could do that. And I was pretty open with them that that wasn't me. And that wasn't the way I approached marriage. 

The Bible says, whatsoever is not of faith is sin. So, Emily, you need to get honest with yourself. And if you can do that (kissing) in faith and believe that it will not go farther, then by all means do. But if you in your own heart, have reservations about it and say I can't do that in faith, I'm going to start having impure thoughts, then my body is going to start kicking in and desire something more than just a kiss, then I think you need to say ok I'm going to build a wall here and I'm going to make it known that kissing is not acceptable for me. 

That was the basis of the church I went to in Manila saying look we don't want to encourage that kind of activity unless we know that there is going to be a lifelong bond. Part of kissing is also sharing, sharing of your innermost being. And you may not want to do that unless you are sure that this person is going to be with you for a lifetime.  



Miss B says.........Don’t let any man sleep with you before marriage, even after the engagement! Please! If you do things right, you will make it to the altar; then you can kiss and do all you want but NOT before. Kissing is fornication, Keep yourself pure and get his view on this.To be honest with you, human beings are one of the only animals that kiss or indulge in “foreplay” before sex. That is one of the things that distinguishes us from animals; that we do that to prepare for sex. Kissing is the warming up!! In the wise words of Pastor K, why put on the oven when you don’t want to cook? Keep it holy!! When you get married, there will be more than enough time for everything!! Some are even tired!!

My friend Iheanacho says christians who want to kiss should try kissing with hands behind their back.

 Kinda funny, hands-free kissing. How long do you think it'll be before you  stop being satisfied with kissing alone? Before your hands want to grope? Before you're tempted to take it further?

I say............ I decided I was no longer going to kiss any man except after marriage some years ago. Between Me and God, kissing is wrong for me. A lot of people think different though. But really, why play with fire if you do not want to be burned? Why start what you don’t want to finish. You don’t want to have sex, right? Why engage in foreplay then? 
That’s how I see it.

God's opinion should matter most. What does God think? You're a Christian, you have the Holy Spirit, find out from Him. Don't just do it because the next person is doing it.
 Have a great weekend. Love you guys!

Eureka, I found it!

I told you all about how my phone got missing. Well, there's good news. I found it! Yay!
A friend called my line yesterday and fortunately the person who found my phone,a man picked and told my friend that I'd left my phone in the church. Later on , I called my line, but the person did not pick, up till close of work yesterday. However, this morning I had a guest at work who turned out to be the same friend whose call the good samaritan picked. He had called my line again last night, talked with this person, got his location  and went to get my phone for me. Is that nice or what? I am not sure who it is that found my phone but I suspect it's my Pastor. My friend said, the man asked him some questions about  me and that he had to call another person who knew me to corroborate his story. So, my phone's back.


 Thanks guys for your prayers. Have yourselves a great day.


By the way guys, shey una dey forbid to make comment ni? Make una try talk now? You do know that I know some of the people who have visited my blog, right? Anywayz, I still love you guys for reading. Lerra.........

Thursday 19 July 2012

                                                                                  THERE'S POWER IN THE BLOOD!

There is such power in the communion. I experienced it yesterday.I woke up yesterday feeling terrible, I did not feeling like going to work. I did go to work and through out, the feeling persisted. I told myself I could not be falling ill again. However, I went to church, took the Holy communion and declared that I wanted it to minister healing to my spirit,soul, and especially my body. And that’s what happened! Today, I am healed, strong, hale and hearty. God is good! 
                                               IT'S OFFICIAL!


Yes,it is. I'm the most careless woman I know. What's happening to me? A few weeks ago, I lost my wallet and its contents. Did not recover it. Now, just yesterday, I lost my phone. The last time I remember being with it was when I was in church. I got home, and my phone was not with me. I was not really worried yesterday because I thought, 'I must have left it in church,someone would find and keep it for me'. Then, I remembered, I'd put the phone on silent in church.That'll make finding it harder.Is that good or bad? My church building is not yet completed, the doors have not been fixed. If an honest member did not find and keep it, a dishonest non-member might stray into the church, find it and decide to claim the right of Finders-Keepers. I went back to the church this morning, my phone was nowhere to be found.I've been calling my line and it just rings and nobody picks. Well, it's on silent. Where is my phone? Who has my phone? Your guess is as good as mine.

I really do not want to experience another loss. I am yet to recover from the previous one. So, join me in praying that my phone is safe wherever it is and it would come back to me.
 Thanks.

Monday 16 July 2012


                       NOT AN OPTION!



                                                  


Suicide has never helped anybody. Suicide destroys, it does not make better. Suicide is a selfish act. It seeks to end one's pain and suffering while causing the loved ones the same pain and suffering. Persons who commit suicide, in most cases leave a family behind. Think of the pain and grieve it causes anyone to lose a loved one, add to that the psychological trauma of remembering that the person you love ended his own life. Then, add these to the bad publicity the family has to face and the stigma that suicide carries with it.
Suicide is not an option. It never solves the problem. Never. Suicide is the devil's ploy to make people lose their souls. Suicidal thoughts are born when people live like this world is all there is and believe so. It isn't. Part of the lyrics from a song says : ' You say this life is all you have , but you waste it time and time again..........' We are only here temporarily. Our time on earth is only a sojourn. We came to this earth from somewhere, and we are going back there. However, the quality and nature of your sojourn on earth determines whether you'll make it back there.


There is a God. This is the truth, and everyone would give account to Him. It is appointed unto man man, once to die and after that, judgement.
Besides, the life is not even yours to take. You did not create yourself. You did not give yourself the breath of life. So, what gives you the notion that you have the right to take your life? The life that we live does not belong to us.Give your life to Jesus and live for Him, so that even when nothing makes sense, you would have a reason to continue living.


I have been through a lot of terrible things in the past. I've been betrayed, victimized, abandoned, misunderstood, hurt, used, taken for granted, treated unjustly, trodden upon. I have experienced suffering. I have suffered affliction that I do not wish on my enemies. Some of these things happened because my mistakes, others happened because there are evil people who do not like good. However, I am still standing. I'm still here, for many are the afflictions of the Righteous but the Lord delivers him from them all. And, though the Righteous may fall seven times, he would surely rise again. It's in the Bible. Suicide was never an option for me. I had Christ, so I had hope. At a time, hope was all I had. Hope would not even let me go. I became a Prisoner of Hope. In the end, God gave me victory. God is such a great God!


For whatsoever is born of God overcometh the world: and this is the victory that overcometh the world, even our faith
Who is he that overcometh the world, but he that believeth that Jesus is the Son of God?
                                                                                                                                   1 John 5:4,5

Hold on to God. He's all you need. He's more than enough!










Friday 13 July 2012

  NIGERIA NEEDS PRAYERS          
                                           

Yes, you might have heard of the tanker fire.Before that, it was the massacre by the Fulani herdsmen and the numerous bombings. There was the plane crash. The deaths have just been too much!
When you move away from these, you see the now regular allegations of bribery and corruption - the Farouk and Otedola saga being the recent one. And , did you just hear that your First Lady was made a Permanent Secretary in Bayelsa State? I do not even want to talk about it. There's also the issue with NYSC posting.


I do not like talking about all these happenings because they are just heart-breaking.
We need to pray for our country and pray for the protection of the citizens of this country.
We need to  pray for the salvation of  Souls that are being lost daily and do our bit to change our society.

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Wednesday 4 July 2012


                                               JUST SHARING

Some people appear to have things easy. They don’t face the same struggles regular people do.
But for the vast majority of single men and women I have come across, the story is different. It’s been a continuous battle and they are fed up with the single life and the dating game.
Years ago Dr. Neil Clarke Warren, founder of eHarmony.com, made the observation that millions of singles would love to get married – but only if they could live happily and forever with their partners.
And the truth is:
The whole frustrating, exhilarating, maddening, crazy game of dating has left many confused, baffled and hopeless.
This is hard to swallow for most Christian singles.
Especially when they’ve always been told that as long as you live a decent Christian life and look presentable that you are all set.
It should break your heart to see that many have been living decently for years … but they are suddenly waking up to discover that while they are rapidly approaching the proverbial age of 40, the hope of a happy marriage seems to be receding … like a mirage as the years go by.
Why is this so?
There are 9 deadly mistakes that almost all singles are making … in a desperate attempt to meet and settle down with their godly spouse.
*** Mistake #1
Having idols in the heart
This is one of the biggies. Please pay close attention here. In the Bible, anything that takes the place of God in your heart is an idol. God wants to have first place in your life. Especially when it comes to the issue of a godly spouse. HE has already kept His best for you. And you have to go to Him in prayer to find out.
And herein lies the danger …
If you go to God with your mind already made up about someone you want and then you just ask Him to “rubberstamp” your preference for you … by asking Him to show you if that person is your godly spouse, you will most likely hear the voice of your own emotions echoed back to you … and NOT really God’s voice.
In this case, God can even say YES if He sees that in your heart of hearts you’ve already made up your mind!
The Bible actually says that if you come to God with an “idol” in your heart He will answer you according to what you have in your heart.
*** Mistake #2
Ignoring your vehicle of destiny
Your vehicle of destiny is a certain skill, talent, attribute or gift that God has given you … by means of which He will deliver His best for your life, including your godly spouse.
For some it is hospitality. For others it is the milk of human kindness. For others it is the ability to be persistent in the face of all odds.
Yours could be spiritual or physical.
Maybe the ability to sing. Or help others in one way or the other. It is supposed to be your most dominant attribute. But if you don’t recognize it … and make full use of it, most of your blessings will be passing you by.
We see a good example of this in the Bible when we read the fascinating story of a young woman called Rebekah and how she got connected with her godly spouse.
*** Mistake #3
Continuing to engage in any form of sex outside marriage
The Bible says clearly that our body is the temple of the Holy Ghost. We are warned against all form of sexual activity outside marriage.
When you violate this crucial spiritual principle, you literally give the devil license to put you in a spiritual cage.
No one can find you.
Or propose marriage.
You could still be walking around – as beautiful as ever – but in the spiritual realm the devil has already written something like “Not Available” right across your forehead.
*** Mistake #4
Being ignorant of the mystery of spiritual marriage
There is something called spiritual marriage. So many singles who are unable to get married in the physical are already married to certain spirits as far as the spiritual world is concerned.
You will have a clue if you regularly have sex in the dream, or wake up feeling sexually aroused.
*** Mistake #5
Getting into ungodly associations
Ungodly associations such as consulting with astrologers, mediums, witches, occult people can lead you into forming soul ties with such people. What’s worse, they can plant a spiritual device in an individual to monitor her anywhere she goes. And when anything good is about to happen to that person an alarm is activated in the spirit realm and invisible powers are quickly assigned to abort it.
In the specific case of marriage and relationships, if and when the person happens to meet their godly spouse, an announcement goes out in the spirit realm to make sure the relationship is disrupted.
At any cost!
*** Mistake #6
Ignoring unbroken covenants
A covenant is an agreement binding on two or more parties. Some could be generational. Others could be as a result of one’s present activities.
There is a particularly important hidden covenant that doesn’t get mentioned all that often. You need to be aware of it when dealing with the subject of your godly spouse.
It is called the covenant with the first sexual partner.
A hidden but very powerful covenant is formed with the first person you had sex with. In fact it is a covenant of blood – very stubborn to break. And it can hinder many from getting married.
*** Mistake #7
Dismissing the subject of unholy dressing
When Christians insist on dressing like the people of the world, they end up attracting the unwanted attention of spirit beings … who are enamoured by their sexy dressing… and insist on following them around in the spirit, fighting over them just like humans would.
Many singles praying for a spouse may end up driving away their God-ordained spouse unintentionally because these invisible powers following them around want them all to themselves … without any competition!
*** Mistake #8
Ignoring the activities of evil manipulators
There are matchmakers in the spiritual world. Most of them evil. Their job is to provide counterfeit spouses. And manipulate people out of the will of God.
Now, the Bible clearly warns against being unequally yoked together with unbelievers – in 2 Corinthians 6 verse 14.
*** Mistake #9
Leaving unbroken curses in place
Many singles today come from cursed families or communities … where people never stay married, separation and divorce is the order of the day, etc. Even in some families, all the women never get married. Or marry late. Or have broken marriages.
Such people need to spiritually separate themselves from such backgrounds.
And then begin to pray in earnest.

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