Wednesday 19 December 2012

What's Love Got To Do With It? Plenty!

Love, love, love. What does it mean anyway? Well, I'm not going into that discussion today. But I have a question. Yeah, the question up there. What has love got to do with who you marry? Should you marry for love? Should you marry someone you do not love? He loves you and you do not love him, should you go ahead and marry him? Hehehe......the questions are plenty abi?

I hear a lot of things.For instance,  'God did not say you should marry who you love but that you should love who you marry'. And I'm like, enhe? Really? For someone like me who is a romantic at heart, that's not something I want to hear. Can I not have both? Marry who I love and continue to love him in marriage? I see a lot of couples, Christians even, who started to loved each other and then got married. It happened with my friend. I watched it happen with them. Who says it can't happen with me?

This made me laugh
Some others will say, 'it's better to marry someone who loves you more than you love them'. And again I ask, really?


I always say, 'if it's not mutual, it's not love'. You profess undying love for me and and I do not feel the same, I nor accept that love o. While I have stopped looking for the 'sweeping off feet' kind( because that kind has got me landing on my butt in the past), I would like for there to be a connection of the the hearts. Or at least, I should like you enough to want to love you. Does that make sense?

My friend and I were talking sometime ago and the issue of one-sided love came up. We both said how much we did not like it. But we wanted to hear a mutual friend's sister's opinion and here's what she said ' So long as he's the one doing the loving I'm fine with it'. Her reason? Men tend to take you for granted when they know you love them. Do I blame her? No. It's been known to happen like she said. However, for me o, If I do not feel it in my heart, I am not doing! How will I survive the marriage na?

One last question for you guys, am I off my rockers to talk like this?



Friday 14 December 2012

What's That....'Thing'?

Nigerians are unique. They have their own way of interpreting certain English words, I've noticed. Especially, the word 'thing'. Several times, I've had people correct me when I used that word. It would seem that the word now means 'genitals'.

So, the other day I gave some documents and my phone to someone to hold for me. I then said to the person 'all my things are in your care o'. The person went, 'no o, your things are with you o....except you want to give them to me'. It took a lot of control for me not to snap at him. Really? So I can not use 'thing' freely again without fearing that someone would give a lewd connotation to it?

In my office, it's the same thing. Just say 'thing' and you'd be sure to have someone stop you mid-sentence.

So, for the benefit of those who do not know what thing means, here goes:

Thing 1
Definition: Whatever exists, or is conceived to exist, as a separate entity, whether animate or inanimate; any separable or distinguishable object of thought.

Thing 2
Definition: An inanimate object, in distinction from a living being; any lifeless material.

Thing 3
Definition: A transaction or occurrence; an event; a deed.


 Thing 4
Definition: A portion or part; something.

Thing 5
Definition: A diminutive or slighted object; any object viewed as merely existing; often used in pity or contempt.

Thing 6
Definition: Whatever may be possessed or owned; a property; distinguished from person.

Thing 7
Definition: In Scandinavian countries, a legislative or judicial assembly.

thing 8
Definition: a separate and self-contained entity

thing 9
Definition: an action; "how could you do such a thing?"

thing 10
Definition: an artifact; "how does this thing work?"

thing 11
Definition: an entity that is not named specifically; "I couldn''t tell what the thing was"

thing 12
Definition: any attribute or quality considered as having its own existence; "the thing I like about her is

thing 13
Definition: a vaguely specified concern; "several matters to attend to"; "it is none of your affair"; "things are going well"

thing 14
Definition: a special abstraction; "a thing of the spirit"; "things of the heart"

thing 15
Definition: a special objective; "the thing is to stay in bounds"

thing 16
Definition: a statement regarded as an object; "to say the same thing in other terms"; "how can you say such a thing?"

thing 17
Definition: an event; "a funny thing happened on the way to the..."

thing 18
Definition: a persistent illogical feeling of desire or aversion; "he has a thing about seafood"; "she has a thing about him"

thing 19
Definition: a special situation; "this thing has got to end"; "it is a remarkable thing"

These definitions are from the Accurate and Reliable Dictionary(ARD), an online dictionary.

I did not see human genitalia in any of the definitions o. Have all those people seen now?


Saturday 8 December 2012

How Do You Do? Fine?

English is so hard! I am a fan of English language however,I love my mother tongue. Some things are just better expressed in your native tongue,wouldn't you agree? And then,when we try to interpret in English, there comes the 'wahala'. We search for the right words to no avail,so we settle for the ones we can find. A lot of times, those words do not convey the meanings we intend. Other times,in attempting to interpret,we murder the English language. But can you blame us, it's not our mother tongue.

Methinks,a lot of people are better off communicating in their native tongue. Why? The kind of English they speak hurts the ears. I know,I know,it's not our mother tongue. But it is our lingua franca. We are multilingual in Nigeria and English, good English is necessary to communicate properly. So, it is important to know small English. However, it seems a lot of people know too little. Why? Beats me.

I do not understand how someone could pass through primary and secondary schools, a higher institution, and still speak such terrible English. How?

Leaves me with one conclusion. English is hard. I mean, even I find it hard at times. Yesterday, I made a grammatical blunder. Thank God I was alone. Yeah, I think aloud,sometimes. Who doesn't? I'd like to meet you :). Well, I said 'For all you know,you don't know if......' That is tautology,right?

It is confusing too. For instance, when someone says to you 'How do you do?' You should say 'How do you do too?' Why? Shouldn't you be answering the question and saying ,'Fine'?

 So people, is it just me or is English hard?

Double Indeed!

Shiloh has ended and it was awesome! Words can't start to describe the experience. You guys will soon start to hear of my testimoniesssssss. We serve such a great God! I hope you were part of it too?

I really thank God for His hand upon His servant,Bishop David Oyedepo. I thank God for the privilege to partake of Shiloh and the Double portion of the Spirit and Grace at work in Winners Chapel.

I bless God for being faithful, merciful,kind,loving. Above all, I bless Him for being God! He's awesome. Guys, if you are not connected to Him,get connected. He's the only One who can turn your life around for good and Jesus is that Connection. Get connected through Jesus.

Talk to y'all soon,God bless you.

Wednesday 5 December 2012

I Too Know!

I have cold sores. Cold sores are originally caused by the Herpes simplex virus. They are blisters that break out at the corner of your mouth or nose. Once you have an attack, be sure that they'd keep coming back. Subsequently, they could be brought on by fever,stress etc. I don't know exactly what brought it on this time but I did wake up on saturday with a high body temperature.

This once when I had it, I went to the Pharmacy to get an ointment for it. I'd read that anti-viral ointment helps. Apparently, they did not have it. They kept pointing me to their anti-fungal creams. So, I started to explain that what I needed was an anti-viral cream because I had cold sores which were caused by the Herpes Simplex virus....Their eyes went wide when I called 'herpes'. At the time, I did not know why, then they said anti-fungal was all they had. So I left.

It was not until I went back to our Medical book at home that I found out why. The Herpes simplex virus is also responsible for Genital Herpes. So, they probably thought I had it! As embarrassed as I felt(hello? My reputation....the husband and wife that ran the pharmacy were practically neighbours), I also shook my head at the fact that they knew so little about cold sores?

Anyways, that's what you get for doing 'over sabi' :). Coincidentally, I read a few days ago that Shea butter helps clear it. I applied Shea butter immediately I noticed the blisters forming. So far, it has not spread.

 So, I guess it works.

Later......  

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