Asoebi for Sale

I know, I know. It’s been ages, and I have missed you too. Like crazy! Pele, sorry, ema bi nu, ndo……..I am ashamed of myself. What kind of blogger am I sef? Anyways, I’ve missed blogging and I’m glad to be back. I pray I don’t go AWOL again J.

Hmmm, I have plenty to share with you guys o. Plenty things I want to talk about. So, I am planning a wedding. Yep, I am getting married. Wedding planning nor be joke o. That aside, the first thing I want to talk about is Asoebi. Some people would tell you your wedding planning is not complete without Asoebi. Well, I think Asoebi is nice. It adds colour to an occasion. However, I did not intend to have it for my wedding o, but friends and family managed to convince me otherwise. Now I have gone and bought fabric for a select few. The others would have to go with the colour code.

Why did I not consider it initially? It is stressful. You have to go shop for fabric, look for people to buy, ‘drag’ money …...I don’t have that kind of energy biko.  Also, money that could have been used to do something else is tied up. Sometimes, until after the wedding…….or forever. Some people may never pay up.

However, I just found out something else about Asoebi. It is actually a way to raise money. Imagine my shock when I found out how much gain someone made from selling Asoebi. Some people actually rip their friends and family off in the name of selling Asoebi. Not cool. I wonder how many ‘Asoebi wearers’ know this. I was talking with another person and he said most ‘Asoebi wearers’ are aware, and that they see it as their  contribution to the wedding. This is why some of them don’t bother to get a gift.

Personally, I feel some kind of way about someone inviting me to their wedding and ripping me off o. I know some people give out the Asoebi for free though. But most times you can’t use them after one wash. Same goes for some that did not even come free of charge.

What say you then? Did you know about gaining from Aso

me and my friend Hope in asoebi 

ebi? Is it okay? Please share your thoughts. I would love to hear them. Lerra.

It's Just Life

I think people should get off their high moral grounds. I think I should get off mine. It's easy to be angry at someone for doing something you do without thinking twice. The more I see of humans, the more hypocritical I find us to be. It's really easy to point the accusing finger at others. And you know what they say, four fingers point back at you.

I have learned not to expect so much from people. I've had all kinds of people let me down. Parents, friends, siblings etc. So I learned that lesson. I also do not take myself too seriously. So I rarely get mad at or hurt by people. They are human beings afterall. Sometimes I think of human beings as the basest of all animals. Animals do some terrible things like...eat their young, but it's because they don't know better. Humans on the other hand? Even the Bible said the heart of man is desperately wicked.

I guess what I'm trying to say is I do not take life and all it's trappings seriously. It's what life itself taught me. For instance, this is the reason I can wear my hair natural amid scorn from ignorant folks. It's the reason I can leave my house to work without any makeup. It's the reason I don't "break my head" when friends do not act like friends. It's the reason I don't cry when my father or mother throws hurtful words at me. It's the reason I can say hi to someone who called me names the previous week. It's the reason I can't be sad that I do not have my dream job yet. It's the reason I could never be jealous of another person! The list goes on....and finally, it's the reason I cannot contemplate suicide despite life's challenges.

 I leave you with the words of a wise young woman(yours truly) :-) "It's just life folks, it's not that serious". Let me add that eternity;where we spend it, is much more serious. Selah.

Solitude

Solitude
This is the place I live  
It's peaceful here
The only worries are those I let in
No phony friends can find me here
Life's disappointments can't reach me here  
Here, I have witty conversations with my mind
My mind........she's funny
She's naughty too
And when she's not in the mood to chat
I seek other companions
My companions........they are not always human
You see, company is the place I visit
Solitude is where I live
And I love it here                                               

Beauty Post - Eyebrows

To me, the most important make up products are eye brow pencils. Don't know if I can do without them, considering my brows are almost non-existent. At a time in my life, I could not leave my house without using eye brow pencils. It did not matter if it was 5:30 am or if I was going to work out - as I did in my university days. I was usually self-conscious of my naked eyebrows. Not without reason. I do look a little funny when I don't use eyebrow pencil. I look eyebrow-less. But I have o. They are just very light and scanty. In fact, even if I forgot to use my friend( room-mate then) would remind me.


So you can call me an 'eye brow pencil addict', hehehe. You can now understand how interested I am in drawing/shading on the perfect eyebrows, and also understand my fascination with the recent craze to first carve out/trace  the brows before filling. But you see, despite all my trials I have not quite mastered the art. Maybe I don't have the right tools, like concealer brush?

I do wonder what the fuss is about though. So if I don't do my eyebrows like that it means I don't know how to do make up or what? Does it make me old school? I have decided to show you guys a few pictures of my day to day brows. No pictures of the new type of brows becos I never learn am :).

My friend -an example of the modern eyebrows

Mua - old school?

So, I decided to show off my hair :)

Please tell, do I need to change the way I do my brows?

PS: I couldn't find any pictures of me and my natural brows :p

7 + The One

I love weddings. I really do. But after being Maid of honor at my friend's
wedding in 2012, I said I was done being in bridal trains. Alas, I have
been in two others this year. Oh, I love being a part of the big day of
friends and then a few strangers( How people can ask someone they barely
know to be in their bridal train is beyond me). Oh well. Me wey gree nko? I
just find it hard to turn people down. I have to learn.
So my title says...you know what it says. I have worn six bride's maid
dresses. Reminds me(not) of the movie, 21 dresses. If I add my flower girl
dress, that's seven. However, I want to wear one more dress and not one more bridal dress. I want to wear the one dress. My wedding dress.
So here's a reminder to Mr "very near future husband". Hey Mister, haf you heard? It's been fun wearing the seven
dresses but I do not want to wear bride's maid dresses any more. I want to wear the one now. I guess what I'm saying is, hurry up and make the dresses 7+ the One!


PS: I'd make an exception for you Gesiere, only if you hurry and have your wedding before mine. :D

Hair Again!

Hey guys! If you read my last post then you know how I was ranting about not knowing any Naturals in Port-Harcourt. I also said that I could not find products for my natural hair. Well, I still have not found any Naturals. However, I have been able to locate some products for my hair. Yay! Yes o. So, on my birthday, which was last friday, I walked into a supermarket, straight to the groceries section and then asked a sales person I saw if they had coconut oil. She pointed up and right in front of me were bottles and bottles of coconut oil. I literally jumped in glee. I was so happy. Finally! I quickly grabbed two bottles.

I also got a bottle of Extra-virgin olive oil, hair conditioner and shampoo, or so I thought. It turns out I grabbed the wrong bottle because the next day I discovered what I thought was shampoo was some kinda leave-in conditioner, which was a good thing because I wanted a leave-in but I didn't know I already had one. And my dear Dudu Osun would come in handy as a shampoo :).

However, there's a catch to all this. It turns out I do not trust the quality of the coconut oil I bought. I have read that one way to know a good one is by the smell. It should smell like coconut. The last one I used smelt delicious ,just like coconut. A friend gave me some of hers. Well, mine was odourless. I also read that Extra virgin coconut oil was the best quality but mine just said 'pure coconut oil'. That mine is odourless could only mean one thing;it's been overly refined. Which makes it of a lesser quality than the extra virgin type. In my excitement, I had grabbed two bottles, now I'm not so pleased about them. I guess I'd be more ......careful to look for things like that next time?

In another news, I got my kinky twists in, myself! Sinceeee, the hair don dey old sef. Visit www.scarletxianne.wordpress.com for picture(s). Lera.....

Would the Port-Harcourt Naturals Please, Stand Up?

Na wa o! I have been on my natural hair journey for a few years. In 2010, I got geri curls. In 2011, after switching to normal relaxer, I decided I wanted my natural hair back. So, I started to transition. That led me to December 2012, where I cut off the relaxed part of my hair. I just tire for transitioning hair bo :).

Although, natural hair comes with a few challenges, I love my hair. Now, I can't imagine it any other way than natural. Ignorant stylists ask me why. I tell them I love natural hair. They just can not understand it. Right now, I've got yarn braids on. However, after what I faced getting them done, it'll be a while before I visit the salon for anything again! Nigerian stylists are clueless with natural hair. Chai! When I take off my yarn braids, I'd have my kinky twists done, myself! Which brings me to my heading. Are there any Port-Harcourt naturals, other than me at all? It'll be nice to know. We could have a meet-up, talk about ways to help ourselves. Being a natural in PH is not a joke. I've been scouring the streets of PH looking for natural hair products. No way! Coconut oil, mba! Knowing fully well that having a product delivered from Abuja or Lagos will cost more than the product itself, how do get my products?

So please, if you are or know a natural in PH, holla. If you also know where or how I could get natural products from PH or outside, cheaply biko, I'd be happy to hear from you.

In the mean time, I'm enjoying my God-given, naturally beautiful hair :).