Scarlet Xianne

If you have ever judged anyone raise your hand. Well, my hand is up. I know I have. Not lately though. I know better now. I have also been at the receiving end. However, when I found out that it was only God that had the right to judge me, in Romans 14:10, I stopped caring about being judged by others. And I knew that I also did not have the right to judge others. So while studying one of Joyce Meyer's devotionals, I discovered why it is so easy to judge others and not ourselves. It's that we look at ourselves through rose-coloured glasses and others through a magnifying glass. How else can you explain the fact that we judge others for the sames things we are guilty of. Everyone has a log in his eyes. It takes God's spirit to remove it so he can see clearly. Ever wondered why the Bible also said that in a man's eyes, everything he does is right? Proverbs 21:2.  Let me pass on Joyce Meyer's advice to you. How about you try to see the best in others and turn the ...

"Sticks and stones may break your bones but words will never hurt", the saying goes. While that is true, only to some extent, words have been known to do great damage. Although, I have repeated this saying, I know from experience that words may not break your bones, but they could break you or kill. They are capable of killing dreams. Growing up I got a lot of comments from people who thought I was too quiet. They also knew I wanted to be a Lawyer. "How will you speak in court", they would ask. Like I had problems with speech. I did not! I just did not talk a lot. I got that all the time. Some would even laugh. They went on about how I would not be able to speak in court. And you know that if you hear something long enough, you start believing it, right? Especially, as a child. But I knew that I could do it. Law and Justice is something I was passionate about, still am. I knew being quiet would not stop me from speaking up for my client when I needed to. Today, I...

Hey guys! If you read my last post then you know how I was ranting about not knowing any Naturals in Port-Harcourt. I also said that I could not find products for my natural hair. Well, I still have not found any Naturals. However, I have been able to locate some products for my hair. Yay! Yes o. So, on my birthday, which was last friday, I walked into a supermarket, straight to the groceries section and then asked a sales person I saw if they had coconut oil. She pointed up and right in front of me were bottles and bottles of coconut oil. I literally jumped in glee. I was so happy. Finally! I quickly grabbed two bottles. I also got a bottle of Extra-virgin olive oil, hair conditioner and shampoo, or so I thought. It turns out I grabbed the wrong bottle because the next day I discovered what I thought was shampoo was some kinda leave-in conditioner, which was a good thing because I wanted a leave-in but I didn't know I already had one. And my dear Dudu Osun would come in handy a...

Na wa o! I have been on my natural hair journey for a few years. In 2010, I got geri curls. In 2011, after switching to normal relaxer, I decided I wanted my natural hair back. So, I started to transition. That led me to December 2012, where I cut off the relaxed part of my hair. I just tire for transitioning hair bo :). Although, natural hair comes with a few challenges, I love my hair. Now, I can't imagine it any other way than natural. Ignorant stylists ask me why. I tell them I love natural hair. They just can not understand it. Right now, I've got yarn braids on. However, after what I faced getting them done, it'll be a while before I visit the salon for anything again! Nigerian stylists are clueless with natural hair. Chai! When I take off my yarn braids, I'd have my kinky twists done, myself! Which brings me to my heading. Are there any Port-Harcourt naturals, other than me at all? It'll be nice to know. We could have a meet-up, talk about ways to help our...

There seems to be an endless debate on age difference between couples. Does it really not matter that a 23 year old woman marries a 50 year old man, or vice-versa? I think it depends on the individuals involved. The motive and reason for the union. If you are a woman who does not have any qualms with marrying a younger man, and one proposes to you, by all means go ahead. If you are a 23 year old woman and you want to marry a 60 year old man, for the right reasons, fine. Personally, I believe that if God through His Word or His Spirit does not frown at it, there is nothing wrong with it. The Bible even records cases where age difference between couple was quite much. There's the case of Ruth and Boaz. See Ruth 3:10. There was also David in 1 Kings 1:1-4, where a young damsel was brought to minister to him in his old age.   It is true that there was no clear case of a man marrying an older woman, it does not mean it did not happen. Even if it did not happen in Bible days, it was...

What do people really want? Do you know? Does anybody know? I've noticed that people can hardly be pleased. I remember when I was a bit overweight(I was a size 12, that's overweight for me). My Aunt would say something like 'which kind fat be this?'. My mom thought I was too big. My friends went 'you should watch your weight'. Infact, everyone was talking, dad, uncle, even those that had no business talking to me about my weight. Then, I started to lose weight, gradually till I started to swim in my old clothes. They began again. My Dad would hold me by the hand, take a good look at me and say 'this girl, are you even eating?' My mom went 'you are too dry'. I reminded them that they thought I was too fat before. Recently, I was talking with my mom about age difference between couples. I said age was just a number and that it did not matter if the woman was a few years older than the man. She didn't want to hear it o. She disqualified a f...